See Yourself in a New Light
How many times have you uttered this question, "Why do I keep doing the same thing?" We all have the proverbial mountain we keep going around while expecting it to be different next time. And rarely, if ever, is it different. So, what do we do?
The first step to healing ourselves is to "wake up" to what we are really doing. So much of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are automatic; like little machines, we keep running our programming. We can judge ourselves for this, or we can do something much more interesting and helpful ~GET CURIOUS!
A Best Kept Secret
The Enneagram is the greatest thing you probably have never heard of! In simplest terms, it is a personality typology but in truth, it is more accurately a road map of the human experience. As a therapeutic tool, I liken the Enneagram to the people mover belts at the airport. Everyone is walking, going through the same motion, but those on the belt are getting there a lot faster.
In Enneagram Informed Therapy, learning about ourselves through the Enneagram allows us to quickly access the motivation and drives that push us to think, feel, and behave in the ways we do. And armed with this information, we begin to make progress quickly.
It's About Working Through, Not Letting Go
Trying to "just let it go" is about as likely as if I said to you "don't think of a purple elephant" and anything other than a purple elephant came into mind. The more we resist something, the more it sticks around and we spend all our energy trying to ignore it. It's like trying to keep a beach ball under water. It's a lot of work.
What if we let it come up. What if we watch it in action. What if we make our reactivity our friend and invite it in for coffee. Trust me, she has a lot to say!
Why Haven't I gotten Over This Yet ?
As we get to know ourselves better, we begin to notice ourselves in action. Understanding why we are the way we are allows a new relationship with ourselves and our history to form. We begin to release the judgment and inner criticism, and hold ourselves with love and compassion.
The amazing part is that as we begin to accept ourselves, we begin to accept others as well. We've finally opened up space for our life to change!
Begin to Listen to Your Own Voice
At this point in the process, your world has opened up. You know who you are, your strengths and your weaknesses, and you love them both. You've turned down that inner critical voice and replaced her with a reality based assessment of the present moment.
In other words, you feel more in control of your life.
It’s no longer about moving away from pain, but moving toward pleasure.
It's time to start looking at your life differently. What do you want? What relationship do you want to have with yourself? How do you want to relate differently with people in your life?
What are you willing to allow yourself to have or to do, finally?
Live More Free
Look at how far you have come! You feel awake, present, energized, and connected to yourself and life.
This is empowered!
You are confident and prepared to face all of life's challenges, not because you will be immune to them, but because you trust yourself to handle whatever comes your way.
You now look upon life as something that is happening for you, not to you, and you see all experiences as opportunities and gifts, even the painful ones.
Life is happening for you, not to you.